OK. first, you are focusing on the wrong behavior. this just reinforces it. yeh, doesn't make sense, but it's true. when 'Suzy' is walking in the room, just say Wow Suzy! I like how you are using your walking feet. then, as Joe is doing the same (and the other are kids running) hey kids! look how great of a job Joe is doing with his walking feet! cool! Billy, can you show me your walking feet? great walking! I like that! guess what happens? they all fall like dominoes, they all want praise for doing the right thing. I reward 'right choices', saying the praise and then the right choice made. (great job Billy, I like how you are sitting like a pretzel.) if you want the class to fall in as a group, then praise the other kids for doing the right thing as they also comply. Now for those non-compliant, I give them two choices if possible. Sit at group or sit quietly at the table. I also have picture cards of the choices (some kids need a picture to understand what is expected). OK, the kid doesn't want to sit at circle, but what is wrong with table if he is quiet? I use time-out only if the child refuses to correct his/her own behavior. "You didn't pick any of the choices available, and you did not have another idea to calm yourself, then you your only choice is what I pick for you. and it's not fun. it's sad to see you here, when your friends would likt to play with you." focus on the positive, praise the right choice made, stay firm, repeat basic rules throughout the day. ignore tantrums if possible. help teach the kids how to develop self-control.
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