Home Hot Topics Articles Directors' Choice Awards About Us / Contact Us Activities & Curriculum Activities for Outcome-Based Learning Arts & Crafts Music for Learning Recommended Reading Sharing Boards: What Do YOU Think? NEWSlink Current National News Conference Calendar Topics In Early Childhood Education Art and Creativity in Early Childhood Education Job Sharing Board State Licensing Requirements Stay Connected! Each month we'll send you an email filled with articles and ideas for your classroom. Subscribe Now Date: 9/13/2006 1:52:00 PM Author: Lillie Neal (wyvern43@earthlink.net) Subject: my 12 year old son poops in his pants hello, I need advice (: I have a 12 year old son who I'm homeschooling- the year before last in March,the principal of his school called & told me that the problem had persisted & asked me & my husband to take him out of school until the issue was resolved. My son started pooping in his pants when he was between 7 & 8 years old.We took him to the Dr last year & they told us that there supposively wasn't anything wrong with him physically & that got me to wondering about his mental/emotional well being.My husband isn't his birthfather & my son found this out about the same time he started doing the issue.My ex & I were never married & seperated when he was 2 due to abuse to me & our son- the abuse to me was one thing but when he started abusing him,I said enough was enough & told him to get out of our lives.5 years later when my son is 7,he sends his girlfriend/wife to our home to lie to me saying that she was someone that was looking to reconnect with old friends from our highschool- she didn't look familiar to me but it had been years since I had seen anyone that I went to school with so I started calling off names of people that I did know & when I got to my ex's name,she acted kinda peculiar.I didn't find out why until the next day when I got an email from her with his last name attached to her first name.I emailed her back & said "do not email me anymore & don't show up at my house- you are a liar" & she tried to lie again after that saying that she took that last name to escape an abusive ex husband.I didn't believe that either & the next email I got was from him.We ended up going to court twice- first to prove/establish paternity & next for the visitation. He was granted visitation against my wishes- after I told the judge & lawyers what all we endured when we were with him,they let him back in my sons life.He was supposed to get him for visitation every other week but during the first 2 years only had him abt 7 times if even that.And each time he would have him,either he would call saying he was bringing him home because he couldn't handle him or my son would call crying wanting to come home because he didn't like how he was being treated by my ex & his wife/girlfriend.And then almost 3 years ago,we had to relocate because of my husbands job.My ex was supposed to have came down & got him for Spring Break that year & he didn't.He claimed that he had been down in the area & couldn't find the place & that I had given him wrong directions- more excuses...I even agreed to allow him more time to come down & he never has.We haven't heard anything from him since the first part of March of 2004- no phone calls,no gifts or cards on my sons birthday or nothing.I'm not worried about it too much because I know that he has had a wonderful father figure in his life for the past 10 years- pretty much all of his life but I'm concerned with HIS feelings about the issue.Could this be the reason for him pooping in his pants or could there be another reason? He has never been sexually abused or anything like that because he would tell me if anyone was doing that sort of thing to him & noone is abusing him here at home.He gets grounded mostly but it's usually when he misbehaves- we don't punish him for pooping in his pants because if it is some sort of medical reason,we'd feel even more terrible. He has a younger sister from my husband but she doesn't have the same problem.He is jealous of her & I think that finding out that my husband wasn't his father (thanks state of Texas)didn't help the jealousy part either.He fights with her & says that he thinks we love her more but we never show favoritism-we love them both unconditionally & equally.I explain to him that yes,we treat her differently on some things because she's a girl & she's younger.I tell him that we expect more from him because he's the oldest.This is my son,my little boy & I love him with all my heart.I just want to find out why he's doing this or find a way to get him to sto Name: Email: Subject

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