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Date: 2/6/2006 9:48:00 PM
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Author:
Medha
(medha_piplani@lycos.com)
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Subject:Managing everything
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Hello everyone,
I am having a little trouble with everything that needs to be managed along with the kids. I am a student and I have two kids, a boy 3.5 and a girl 6.5. I have to go to college for the whole day and husband comes only in the evening.
Because of my keeping busy I always feel a little guilt that I am taking time away from them. This is their age when they need me the most and I am keeping myself so busy. My daughter after coming to grade one has stopped listening and following directions. I sometimes have to force things on her.
Do you all have any suggestions how I should manage everything thereby spending time with my kids? Do you think my keeping busy has to do something with my daughter's behaviour?
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Date: 2/9/2006 5:39:00 AM
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Author:
Rudy
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Subject:managing time
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Your being busy DEFINITELY is the reason your child won't listen. She is getting the attention from you by doing the things she isn't suppose to do. When you say keeping busy What are you doing? Is there a way during your busy time that you could stop and take some time with your kids? Arent they more important than being BUSY!!!!
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Date: 9/28/2007 9:23:00 AM
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Author:
cj
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Subject:Are there other issues?
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Hi Medha, I was just wondering from your message if there was other things happening in your family. Have you and your husband splitup and he visits the children in the evening?
I'm thinking that your daughter goes to school during the day and so do you, so that's not time that you are away from her, so don't feel guilty there. Does your husband do things with the children in the evening to give you study time? I might be way off base....but then...I keep feeling like there might be more happening.
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Date: 2/16/2006 5:48:00 PM
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Author:
bear
(infinitebeliever@hotmail.com)
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Subject:Hi there, I would suggest maybe counting...
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Hi there, I would suggest maybe counting your classtime down to a few days a week, and maybe planning a special time for your daughter each day or at least a special day. There are so many times that seem looked over when you could find time to just hang out with her, like before bed, or at bathtime, or maybe in the car...first graders have alot of affection to give and also she may just need to talk, there is peer pressure even at that age, and of course don't forget your son, he too...may not be showing it yet, but he will.. I have raised 3 little ones, now grown but believe me, this is the most precious time..while you can still hold their hand..maybe you could go to school part time, or put it off for a few years until the kids are older and in higher grades of school? if not, then just try to arrange a schedule that you can manage that sits aside a few hours or even 30 minutes just being with your kids daily..not rushed...not tired..you won't get this time again..enjoy your babies! thats my suggestion-- good luck--
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Date: 6/13/2006 11:23:00 AM
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Author:
Linda Arocho
(t0good@webtv.net)
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Subject:busy moms
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Trust me, I understand about feeling swamped and not giving your children enough time! Step One: Tell your husband how you feel - tell him "I need help!" My husband works 3rd shift, comes home and does a list of three things and goes to bed. It helps me. Step Two: Ask for help - Have your oldest help with things. At age 10, my son was cleaning the bathroom once a week and dusting. At age 3, my daughter was cleaning the kitchen table and chairs for me. I also swallowed my pride and asked my mother-in-law to watch the kids from time to time if I needed to get things done away from the house.
I was going to school, had two little ones (2 & 3 years), a full-time job, a husband working double shifts - I know how crazy life gets. I did my homework at nights when the kids were sleeping, at nap times, and when my oldest was doing homework. It was cute to hear him say, "We're doing our homework." But I also learned to ignore imperfections around the house. All that mattered was 1) there was no clutter 2) we were fed 3) we were clean 4) we were all happy. I got my time with them and they knew they were important. Plus they all loved that I told them I needed their help. Who doesn't ever want to help their mommy?
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Date: 7/23/2006 6:46:00 PM
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Author:
catthy
(cndhop@verizon.net)
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Subject:right on! AND
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wow I totally agree. Set up a time that all children can talk about how they feel about no mom time. And ask them how things can change. age apropriate. Let every one know what NEEDS to get done and what each person is willing to do that will help you all to get more time together. sit and read Make at least 1 appointment a day with each child even if is only 15 minutes of undivided ....childs name....time. It will prove to make the child feel that they ARE most important as they should feel they are over things.
Let them know the whole picture and that they will benefit from you going to school and make daily life FUN>>> sometimes i forget to have fun. hope this helps. Catthy
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