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Date: 3/27/2006 4:04:00 PM
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Author:
Kelly HIrshka
(dhkl@iup.edu)
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Subject:baby cries when daddy even looks at her
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My son became a father at the end of November. His daughter lives about 8 miles away, with her mother and grandparents. He is no longer with the mother, but sees the baby anywhere between once and four times each week. It is so hard for him, because as soon as the baby sees him, she cries. I don't mean for a minute or two, I mean the entire time he is with her, whether it is for an hour or three hours. His visits are not court-ordered, and he loves his daugher and wants to spend time with her, but hates seeing her so upset. She is only 3 1/2 months old, and this has been going on for the last month. He doesn't know what to do, and is frustrated and heartbroken that she "doesn't like" him. Please, please post your suggestions here, or email me at dhkl@iup.edu. Thank you!
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Date: 5/15/2006 9:41:00 PM
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Author:
Stacy
(sssbeb27@hotmail.com)
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Subject:My daughter went through this stage also...
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My daughter went through this stage also with everyone except myself, her mother, and her father. She was hardly ever around anyone else. It passes with time and also with seeing the people various times. The father just has to keep on coming to see her regardless if she is in his arms. I have found that it helps when I would hold my daughter and just talk with the new person. It helps show them that the person is trustworthy if the mom is okay with them. It is tough to see her so upset but it would be tougher not to see her at all.
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Date: 3/28/2006 7:55:00 PM
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Author:
mosquito - from Australia
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Subject:an idea
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When I was little I would cry at anyone and everyone even if they just looked at me, let alone said hello!!!!
If possible - can he put some photos of himself around her room (or even throughout the house - a bit tricky since parents have separated but you never know!!!!). This way she will get used to seeing his face and hopefully won't cry everytime she sees him but maybe when he leaves. If possible can the mother talk about him to her saying nice things!!!! (she may be only 3 1/2 months but babies take a lot in at this age!!!)
As she gets older - he could do activities with her (not just give presents) to create an easier relationship. Like blowing bubbles and pulling a piece of satin etc across her face.
I hope this helps!!
Let us know how everything goes!!
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Date: 1/23/2007 12:20:00 PM
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Author:
Linda Arocho
(t0good@webtv.net)
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Subject:similar problem
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I have a little girl in my care who's 3. Her parents are separated and she sees her daddy only on weekend for a little while. He's trying to get her to bond more with him- calls her every day at home and daycare - but says she usually isn't interested in speaking to him at all.
I have got it so that she'll talk to him for about 6 sentences, but does anyone have any hints I can pass back to him as to how to have her bond with him more? We need all the help we can get!
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Date: 10/1/2007 8:13:00 PM
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Author:
shaya
(shaun.shaya@comcast.net)
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Subject:Baby Cries When Dad leaves
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I work from home (with some limited travel) and we have a nanny that participates in the care for our 10 month old daughter. My wife works in an office and is gone from about 9-5 everyday. When Mom comes home, baby still cries when I leave the room or go somewhere and Mom is caring for her. It is having a very dramatic affect on my wife who is hurt because baby is crying when I go out of the room and stops when I pick her up. While I work from home, I only see my daughter a few times throught the day. Is this just a phase that baby 'seems' so attached to me and not as much to her mother. My wife is having a very hard time with this and I am feeling very bad but do not know what to do. Any thoughts?
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